Dean Spade’s Love Letter to the Gay, Horny, and Confused - Electric Literature

Dean Spade’s Love Letter to the Gay, Horny, and Confused - Electric Literature

I think often about the fact that I am a first-generation lover. By this I mean that I am the first woman in my family to love entirely as I choose, the product of generations of arranged marriages for women – girls, some of them – in a South Asian culture preoccupied with enforcing rigid boundaries of caste. Love, to us, is a transgressive, abstract, Western thing, only tangentially related to the everyday work of marriage – in fact, we disting…